This started off as a Facebook post. I kept trying to condense it down, but I inevitably had to leave important details out.Somebody asked a little while after I posted my last Facebook status about making blogging my career in 2017, “how do you make money just writing and posting articles?” Good question. You've gotta have something or some reason to write, in the first place.Writing was never something I had in mind as a career. I think the desire to write comes from a need to communicate. For me it was to communicate thoughts that I felt had value to them but...

I've got an idea.It's going to be short, quick, and easy.If we all slowed down a little bit, we'd have a lot more fun.The next romantic interest you come across, let's try something new - the friend test.As I browse all the social networking apps, specifically the ones centered around finding romantic opportunities, I sense a lot of heads hitting brick walls. The instant gratification aspect of dating through apps on your phone has also made everyone get in a hurry to find "the one". I think we're doing it wrong. If you truly want a relationship, stop trying so...

I'm very skeptical of "cure-all" fixes. I don't claim to have them. What I do have is a perspective, and experience. I find people to be very interesting to talk to and observe, if for no other reason than to hear their problems - especially those with other human beings - and sit back and daydream about the cause of it all. Relationships (or lack thereof) happens to be one of the most popular and interesting, especially in the LGBT community. I'm sure there are parallels in the straight world, but I'm no expert on that. I try to look...

It's been a long time coming. I've finally landed and it feels so good.The Downtown Dweller started back in early 2013, when I sought to craft a blog and an online presence that personified my ideal life - that of a downtown dweller. Now, who or what is that? It's an informed, cultured, classy, urban resident. It's jazz, wine, fashion, cars, architecture, pop culture, music, food, and travel. And it's for any and every guy (perhaps some gals too) that is interested in getting in on the know of how to live the best life.So why Nashville?For the past three...

Finding meaning is at one time or another a core desire in everyone's life. It kinda helps you define what you're here to accomplish, which trickles down from macro to micro, to the point of determining literally what you do with each and every moment. Far too often I feel like people pick up on the lives lived by those around them, and, drawing on the security that comes from the observed individual's experience and success with the path they've taken, model something very similar in their own life with a few changes here and there.Meaning has, among a lot...

[caption id="attachment_953" align="alignleft" width="300"]San Francisco by luca.sartoni / CC BY SA San Francisco by luca.sartoni / CC BY SA[/caption]Unless you live under a rock, you are surely aware of the plight those of us fortunate enough to fall under the umbrella of “GenX/GenY/Millenials” are facing.We amass mountains of debt getting degrees that either 1) don’t help us land a job, 2) get us a job where we’re underpaid & overworked, or 3) we never use at all. We are told we probably won’t have it as good as our parents, let alone have more opportunity than our parents have had. They (whoever “they” is) say we are so addicted to technology that we lack the skills to interact on a face-to-face, personal basis with anyone. Some of us have given up on having relationships altogether because they’re too much trouble to negotiate and/or endure.It’s certainly not the glamorous life. Plenty of times, it’s barely the tolerable life. And for those of us who fall into the underpaid & overworked category, if you make it to your mid-30s without being on meds for high blood pressure, anxiety, or depression (or some combination thereof) you fall into a shrinking minority. Health insurance? Yes, please – it’s a 21st Century necessity. But I digress….

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